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So I am going to be the unpopular person in the group and let you know that she is going to be a handful, your heart is in the right place but you have to realize the reality of the situation. If she has had two disruptions in the past then I would move on. As a adoptive parent currently disolving an adoption with a child that has made life a living hell for the last 3 years I will warn you, you have to be willing to devote EVERYTHING to this chilld. Be SURE there is professional support available to you. We live in Ohio and after 3 years and exhausting all the child psychiatrists / therapists / treatment centers in the Cincinnati / Dayton / Columbus area we are barely keeping our lives together because of one child. It could be everything will be wonderful and I really hope so. But I am not going to bull crap you like everyone did to us ("you will be fine" "all you need is love and patience" "every child can be saved"). It may be heartless for me to write this, but I dont want you to go through what we have gone through. My best advise if you are going to attempt the adoption is to really pay attention to her behavior the first 6 months before finalizing the adoption. If you have any doubts during this "honeymoon" stage then look out. Sorry to rain on everyones parade, I just like people to know the possible reality. Good luck!!!
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