Do TONS of your own research first before even calling an agency or speak to any adoption professionals. This cannot be stressed enough.
Other birthmothers- the ones just living through it, the ones who have lived their whole lives, the ones who have reunited with their child, the ones with successful open adoptionns and the ones whom have found that they have closed.. find them and listen, find us online, and read what we all live.
You want to talk to adoptees who have had good experinces and those who feel bad about being adopted. Anyone of them could be speaking for your child in 25-30years. You wnt to know what your chid can face from a life adopted and decide if that is something you want for you child.
And remember this.. no matter how inconvienent and unplanned this pregnancy is; if you have this child you will be a mother. No matter how logical a plan, your homones will not listen. No matter what you decide, your body and soul will change. No matter what, if you have a baby, then your life will change.
You can choose to live as a mother and I will guarentee you that you will have to face challanges, and hard times and stress, and all the love and wonder it brings. Or you can choose to the uncertaintity of life as a birthmother and I will guarentee that you will have to face challanges and hard times and stress, and loss, tears and some struggle to find a sembelance of peace.
Goggle is your new best friend.
Google for birthmothers..find our blogs.
Google for adoptees.. learn of their plights.
Google for the
National Council of Adoption and learn about the industry.
Google for the research of the long term affect of relinquishment.
Don't try to make a decision until you have ALL the facts.