[Saya]

As Debbie suggested, I want to second the idea of posting on the Guatemala board - it's the most active of the international boards right now, and a lot of folks there had children come home at around that age with similar issues, ie attachment, grieving, etc. It is HARD, but it sounds like you're doing everything right - wearing her, keeping her close, etc. Do you know this website: A4everFamily.org - HOME? It's about helping adopted babies with attachment, and maybe some of the recommended activities would be useful in helping your daughter adjust and learn to trust you.

I KNOW how difficult the lack of sleep can be! I second the Weissbluth book, which has been a godsend to us - though it sounds like this isn't the time to do any kind of cry-it-out with your daughter, obviously. All I can say is IT WILL GET BETTER!!! Hang in there - and though I know right now it all feels crazy and overwhelming, I do want to add CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW DAUGHTER!!!