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thank you aspenhall for the suggestions...we sent a snuggle toy to her in the orphanage with our scent on it when she was about 4 months old and it was with her at her G&R, we also keep the blanket we had in vietnam just for a bit a familiarity from there. she had nothing but the clothes on her back and the snuggles toy we sent her when we picked her up.
she sleeps in our room in a crib with white noise and a fan going so its not to silent.
i think alot of her grieving is when she was in the orphanage her birth mother and 2 sisters were there all the time with her fo eight months and never left her side, holding her to feed her, walking her around, sleeping with her, jumping to attention the minute she let out a peep....
we are trying to bond as much as humanly possible, but i have another child in the house and the attention is split so she gets mad, which i understand. but i can't have her attached to me 24 hours a day i just can't.
i know its a matter of time for things to shake out, we're just all so tired it seems as if it will be this way forever....it also doesn't help that our 2 1/2 year old daughter was so low maintanence in the first couple years that this is such a shock and makes us feel like we have NO parenting skills what so ever!
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