I just wanted to update you all on my reunion story. First, a quick synopsis of my story. My son contacted me in December, 2007-he was 27 years old and we had a typical honeymoon phase of our reunion-which lasted quite a few months. He moved his family 2000 miles to be close to me, we had a lot of problems and bumps in the road until he almost died from an overdose in October, 2008. 1 week after he was out of the hospital, he literally ran back to his aparents. He acted like a spoiled brat during most of our reunion, and I let him act that way, he used me for many things and I let him use me. However, I just always felt that we had such a strong connection, of course being the addict he was, he used that to his advantage. The last straw was him contacting my employer and telling them so many outrageous things about me that I lost my job. So we had no contact for the last 3 months-none at all. I knew he was struggling with so much in his life but I just had to let go and let God, as they say. It was like relinquishing him all over again, it was so hard to not hear his voice, not know what he was doing, even though he had hurt me so much, I could not just turn off the love I have for him. Anyhow, he tracked me down and called me 2 weeks ago. We talked for 2 hours on the phone, most of the phone call was him crying to me telling me how sorry he was. For the first time in our relationship, I told him exactly how I felt during this last year and a half, how much he hurt me, how I feel like we really screwed up our reunion. I told him I never ever stopped loving him and I wanted a relationship but it would take me some time to trust him again, and we needed to work on OUR relationship before we let in all the other crazy members of our families. We agreed to baby steps, and we have been talking almost daily since. We both realize that we need this relationship to work, that it is what we both desperately need. I realize that he is not going anywhere and I don't need to enable him, and I can be 100% honest with him and he will still be here for me. I also realize that our relationship needs to be rock solid so we can withstand any family craziness. I am so much more settled in this new relationship now, and I feel like we will have the rest of our lives to be in each others lives. I know there will be ups and downs just like any other relationship but I know now that he is around to stay.
I feel like I am really his mom again, not some crazy stranger. It really is an amazing thing, and I am so secure that this is the way it should be.
