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I know this post is getting far off what Proud Mommy meant for it to be. But, as a parent who adopted older children internationally - I'll state my why. Let me start by saying when people ask me this out in the world (which they do, most folks have no boundaries), my reply is "why, how many children from foster care have you adopted?"...those who have adopted from foster care would generally never ask such a question. I don't mean that to be rude - but it's true. Anyway, we tried to fost-adopt...biological parents with children in the foster system get a lot of chances - not judging that either way - but for a family that just wants straight adoption - it can be tough. We knew we couldn't have a child with us and then not be allowed to adopt. So, simply for wanting straight adoption we were told it would take longer. (I know people do it quickly...just stating what we were told). If you read some of the boards of folks working through foster care - you'll see that the US systems can throw up a LOT of barriers for people simply wanting to add a child/ren to their family. Inquiries go unanswered, TPR dates get moved over and over. Also, at the time - we felt that the chances of a child who had been moved over and over would be more apt to suffer from the mental affects of that (RAD, ODD, etc.). We now parent two AD kids from Russia...so that one didn't pan out...
We tried for about a year (simultaneously with our first failed intl. placement) and then gave up since we'd had not even one possible placement (and our parameters were not that closed). So, back to your regular scheduled programming.
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