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I know its been a while since you posted this thread, but I just wanted to give a little input. I was adopted as an infant and my birth parents also got married and had more kids. I was 23 when I met them and developed an incredible relationship with them and all of my siblings. If I were in your daughter's position, with so much great potential for a reunion, I would want to have that opportunity as soon as possible. I'm not saying to go out and contact her right this minute, but I wouldn't wait until she contacts you. I regret every day that I didn't contact my birth parents sooner (I had the means to do so, but was afraid).
The fact that you guys got married and are still together, makes your situation very unusual. It also presents a ton of different emotions and feelings than the typical situation when the parents aren't married, and there aren't full siblings involved. Regardless of how well, or not, that your daughter was raised, she will likely have a lot of feelings of loss and of missing out on life with the rest of her family.
I could go on forever about this, but my point is that I think you should contact her. Are you in the position to contact her adoptive parents since you used to be friends? I'm not sure of the best way to proceed, but I definitely think you should do it sooner rather than later.
Feel free to email me if you want more of her possible point of view. Good luck!
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