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Originally Posted By Damsel Plum

Hi there,

I assume you're writing this because you're adopted and you're wondering whether there's some sort of connection between feeling crushed losing a girlfriend and being adopted. There are therapists and adoption professionals who will tell you yes. I'm no psychological professional, I'm just another adoptee. My take on it would be to separate out the natural angst anyone feels losing a loved one from unresolved adoption issues you may have.

We all lose loved ones. It can suck. But we should all strive to be resilient and forgiving. One day someone else may lose us and likewise feel horrible. In the meantime, know that you are normal in your grief.

Regarding anxiety: exercise, eating well, drinking plenty of water, and keeping a journal are all supposed to help.
If you think you may have some serious problems (suicidal thoughts, cannot control negative thought, become immobile and unable to perform everyday tasks) - you should consult a professional. Ask your doctor. I'm sure someone on this board can give you more professional advice.

Otherwise, my unprofessional hope is that you can find hope yourself, be patient with yourself for the natural time everyone needs to grieve a loss, and that you continue to take care of yourself and pursue things that interest you. Exploring new venues may open up possibilities for fun and
new relationships.

Cheers,

Damsel