We need help! After a failed adoption recently, my DH and I are ready to start the process again. This time through an agency that assisted in the meeting with our previous Birth Mother. We really like our case manager (not sure if that is the correct term) and have a lot of faith in her. She told us we needed to write birth mother letters and create the profile and pic pages but that we needed to make sure we were as culturally diverse as possible and address race. This is because we are interested in an AA or Bi-racial child. But how do I do this?
I keep trying to write this but it either sounds like I am a poser or apologizing for all the wrongs ever done to AA throughout time. I was raised to celebrate people's differences, because our differences are what makes us special. I dated every color God has made and was astonished when I married a CC man. My best girl friend for the past 16 years is black. I love Africa and it is my dream to one day visit Kenya. My friends laff at me because I love the African culture more than most AA. But most important I am going to be a fantastic mom, what ever color my child is and I will celebrate their mind and their skin color. But I need help!
How much of my letter should address it if any? If my case manager hadn't mentioned it I never would have thought about it. I respect people for who they are not what color God made us. Some of my friends who are AA have told me how demeaning it would be for me to even bring up the race. Others say because I will be different, I definitely need to address this.
How did those who have had successful adoptions of children with different skin tones write your letter? Did you address it? How did you address it?
I am so confused and worried I will say the wrong thing. Thank you again for all of your help.
Have a great day!
Kristin
