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Deb, your story sounds very similar to ours when we started. We have younger kids and wanted older. We initially went through Health & Welfare to get training and a home study. That kept us in state. They didn't seem to know very well what they were doing. All of our inquiries went nowhere for over a year. Then we switched to an agency that let us go anywhere. My wife inquired on a bunch of kids and we had a referral within a month. Then the placement took about 6 months (Nobody seems to work at Texas DCPS in the summer).
We haven't had any trouble with the age difference. Our two are quite gentle, even the one with attachment issues. He rages but it is all a show. He pulls back before he hits anything. He accidentally ripped his shirt once during a rage and it surprised him. He stopped instantly and then glanced around to see if anyone saw. Still, we keep a close eye on things.
We have 4 boys--adopted siblings who are 10, 11 and birth kids who are 5 and 6. In a way they are a great match. The 5 and 10 year olds have about the same maturity level. The 6 and 11 year olds have about the same physical ability, at least for now.
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