We are all touched by adoption - and we all have masses of strong feelings - I think when we get riled it's becasue it touches our sorest spots. As an adoptee by bmom will never replace my mom but my mom can never take away my connection to my bmom....both fall under the umbrella of Mother. I wish that every person disconnected by adoption, who wishes to be reuinted - will be! Good luck to all involved! Amom, bmom, mom, mommy....don't get hung up on pre concieved notions of what you think you're supossed to be.....follow your heart!