Wow I had to do one of the most difficult things to my dd today. She is of mixed race and has beautiful curly hair however due to her neglecting to properly care for it she had matted in one section that seh was hiding by wrapping the remainder of her hair around in a bun. She had a party today dress up at a hotel with all of her friends and she had promised we would have worked on her knot and have her hair fixed for todays party. As is typical despite multiple promptings and offers of assistance the day is here and her hair is still matted so badly that the only thing for us to do was cut it out almost to the scalp. She wanted it cut I guess in one way she feels relief that it is gone but she hates her hair has since she was a toddler. Her hair is gorgeous and I hope one day she will learn to love it and accept it as part of who she is. This has been such an emotionally draining day twelve so independent and then so not...thanks for listening.