[Steph-Jason]

Originally Posted by Dickons

Oceana,

Off topic - somewhat...adult adoptee's get this same stereo type questions and are told that the person know's so and so and they were so and so...

Kind regards,
Dickons

Along these lines- I think people need to let you know that they "get it" - even if they don't. Nothing to do with adoption but a guy that I used to work with & be good friends with was homosexual. At one a girl I was friends with met him & said "well I know a gay guy- his name's Scott XXX"- & looked at him like he was supposed to know him!! I'm just thinking- what-- do you think there's a registry for homosexual men in our area!!

I think it goes back to people feeling like they have to say something in these situations. I don't really understand it.

Oceanica- was DD with you? I've had people that don't know I have an AA daughter make comments about race. Once they find out about DD they get really red faced!! I had someone - right before DD was born & we decided to adopt an AA child- make a comment about "why do black people back up to park in a parking spot"-- something along those lines meaning that they do it to drive away quickly if a police office comes... something REALLY rude & offensive. I was a bit irritated & said (in a very excited manner)- Oh- I forgot to fill you in on the latest for our adoption... we're almost on the list & we decided to be open to race & adopt an AA child!!" he was SOOOO embarassed & turned really red. I haven't had to deal with comments since she's been born thankfully.

BTW- I LOVE your daughter's name. So funny that you posted this because I remember reading one of your posts before & thinking what a pretty name it was & wondering about it.