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I would ask myself how I would feel if I relinquished my child and then my boyfriend left anyway. I don't think you can make this decision based on the relationship you are in right now. I know you love him, etc., but I would venture to say you are taking a huge risk if you think this bf will be around forever and you would have given up a baby that you wanted to raise. Just looking at divorce stats alone, at least 50% of marriages end in divorce. And when I think of relationships I had in my teens and 20s that I thought would be forever, well, those guys are long gone, and happily so in retrospect. Sorry to put such a negative spin on this, but the fact is, you are having this baby and it sounds like you are feeling a good deal of bonding already and would really like to parent your child. Your folks are supportive and you could work on your school and career goals simulataneously. It will be hard, no doubt, but if you really aren't ready to be a parent (and there is nothing wrong or selfish in that), then make the choice to place based on THAT rather than "my boyfriend won't stay with me unless I relinquish." I think you will know better how you feel after you have your baby and get to see and hold him. You don't have to rush into any decisions, either. You can look into both adoption and parenting, maybe take your baby home for a bit and see how you adjust, and if you find it not possible to parent, you can work out an adoption plan then.
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