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First and foremost, you need to absolutely follow what you beleive is right to do in your heart.
I think the previous poster had some VERY wise words for you! There are no guarentees (can't spell today, sorry) in life. Heck, my son's adoptive parents got divorced when he was entering his teen years!
Your boyfriend says he can't live with this reminder but that doesn't mean that what happened will just 'go away' after the baby is born and if you relinquish. Your body will be forever changed, certainly who you are on the inside is already changed.
You could start med school and hate it!
There are just so many things that can happen, or can not happen, know what I mean?
I know it's hard.
Try to think. Think about what you are feeling deep in your heart. Think about how you would feel raising your child, or having your child raised by someone else.
Even if you think adoption IS the right solution for you, please consider taking your baby home for a few days (at least) to really think about it. I didn't even get to hold my son and that's something I really am sad for.
Also think about what kind of adoption you might want to have. For me, I wasn't given any options but fully closed. I think it would have been a little easier for me to have at least a semi-open.
And get couseling. Not from an adoption agency, but from someone neutral.
Keep us informed. I wish you all the best!
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