[just-breathe]

Setting the situation for you: DH and I have been married nearly 8 years, no bio kids, but my 20 year old sister lives with us while attending college. We have been going through the licensing process to adopt from foster care, under the presumption we would be licensed for 2 kids. We originally said at our first meeting that we wanted up to 3 kids, and mentioned it again at a later meeting while chatting about how they're having trouble finding homes able to take 3 kids. But our worker told us the first day that the room would fit 2 kids. So we kind of prepared our hearts and minds for 2, instead of 3.

At the last visit, we finally had the room cleaned out of odds/ends and junk that had been shoved in there, and had set up the bunkbed, etc. so she was able to get a better feel for the size of the room. Our worker started asking questions about how big was the room actually (she wanted to go get her tape measure), and could we make it work for 3 kids temporarily until my sister eventually moves out and another bedroom is freed up - which is completely up in the air right now. Could be a couple months, or 2 years. In our state, kids are required to have 40sqft each. Our room measures out at 118 sqft., so 2 sqft short of the requirement.

Sorry for such a long backstory, but here are my questions:


1. Do you think they will license us for 3 despite being short the 2 sqft, being as I keep reading about people being contacted for more than their license, ages outside their range, etc. and I know they're really recruiting for families for 3 sib sets?

2. What types of things do we need to think about/plan for if they do license us for 3? We've got the furniture and child care lined up for 2 but can easily change things like that. I just don't know if there's something I'm not thinking of - my head is just spinning right now.


I'm also having trouble finding threads about what to expect as far as what our lives will become like once we are placed with kids. The search function brings up tons of threads, but I haven't been able to sort through them to find one that directly addresses that question. So if you can refer me to a forum/thread here so I can read about going from 0 kids to multiple kids, that would be great as well!

Thanks!!!