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I understand the perspective of "only one mom", and she can't be replaced.... but you need to understand it's the difference between an adoptive parent saying "My daughter" and saying "The kid I'm taking care of". Both statements are true, but one is filled with love and reflects a connection. It would be hurtful to the adoptee to hear their parents say this, and it's no less painful for us. I don't mind SHARING the title....but I at least deserve a unique name that reflects the connection/bond and place in my childs life.
There needs to be an acknowledgement of a deeper connection in my opinion. To trivialize the tiotle to a simple first name makes the relationship casual. Words are powerful....If not "mom" than another name with the same meaning.
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