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Originally Posted by BRANDI18DAYBELL
I WAS TAKEN AT THE AGE OF 4 AND WAS IN AT LEAST 19 FOSTER HOMES BECAUSE THE ABUSIVE ONES SCARED THE PEE OUTTA OF ME I WISHED EVY NIGHT MY MOM WOULD BE A SUPERHERO AND FIND ME ...BUT THAT NVR DID BUT WHEN I WAS IN A HOME I LIKED I LOVED THAT I WAS TAKEN ...NOW I AM ADOPTIED WHEN I WAS 17 AN DFOUND A LOVIN FAMILY I STILL TALK TO MY BIRTH FAMILY AND SEEIN THEM NOW THAT IM OLDER AND MORE MATURE IF U WERE TO ASK ME THAT QUESTION I WOULD SAY YES IT WAS FOR THE BEST AND NOW IM GOING TO GO TO COLLEGE AND BE A PAROLE OFFICER .....WHLE I HAD A HARD TIME IN FOSTERCARE IT HAS MADE MORE WISER IN WHAT I WANT IN A FAMILY  |
You do not know how my heart breaks when I read stories like this. I'm adopting a sibling group of 3, bringing my total number of kids up to 7. I had planned to keep up my license only so we can adopt any more children by the same birth mother, if need be, but when I read stuff like this, I can't help but think that maybe I should keep being a foster parent.
I'm so sorry the system failed you in so many ways. I'm very happy you have made peace with your time in care. You must be an amazing person to overcome these (I'm sure your loving adoptive family helped with that
obstacles. I think as a police officer, you will be even better because of your experience in foster care. In our state, only a police officer can remove children, unless their is a court order. I think you will have better insight into when it really is in the child's best interest to remove a child and when it's not.
Do you mind if I ask you about the foster homes you were in? Why so many? Did CPS/DFCS ever tell you why they were moving you?
My soon to be adopted kids started out in our home but we were only doing respite/emergency care at that time because my husband's mother was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. (We were trying to spend lots of weekends with her at that time and she lives in another state, so we decided to just do the respite/emerg. care to make it easier on us) Anyhow, I had these kids for about 4 days in our home before they found their first "permanent" placement...which only lasted a couple of months. After my home, they had 3 more homes. Then they came back to me
. I've always felt like the system failed my kids. I'm glad they are with me now, and wish more than anything I had just kept them from the beginning. Counting his birthfamily and my home twice (since they moved into it twice), my kids moved 5 times in a year.