Regardless of our thoughts and our deep inside anger, we must remember, that, indeed the person "we" have lost...was someones daughter/son...someones wife/significant other...somesone/mother/mentor...that person was , at one time or another...loved by others. Darcy, please know that I, too as a firstmom harbor anger, not in the same ways you do..but anger none-the-less.. is the same. I of course cannot give you the answer you seek, but my belief is very simple....your/her son was raised by her, there is no doubt alot of sadness...on may levels, and in differing ways. Your/her son is most definately playing many many past memories in his mind. He only wishes for SOMEONE..(hopefully you ...but anyone) to understand his pain, and his anger too. Please try with all your MIGHT, to put aside ANY anguish, and offer some type of solice! If it were I , and I could not muster this...then I would stay away...for this is a time he needs only to be held, hugged, and supported...nothing more and nothing less. I hold no wise solutions, but I will offer you a HUGE hug, and I most certainly can muster adding another prayer to my list tonight. Blessings, and I am so so sorry this has been placed upon your heart...., however our ALL MIGHTY , never hands us more than we can handle.....as you will do, I am sure..C.J.
