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I thought I had posted an answer to this. Maybe another thread.
My husband and I adopted an 8 year old girl who had been in foster care for several years. I knew her through school. She had been with a sibling until a few months before we got her.
I went into it thinking I was prepared for everything. I wasn't. I'm not trying to persuade you to not adopt an older child but it was hard. My daughter isn't even one of the tough cases but it was still very hard.
Had I answered you in the first six months of her placement I would have told you to run away as fast as you can. We are now almost 3 years in and life is so different. Yes, we have our moments and probably always will. But she is mine now. There have been many things to deal with. Her loss. Keeping in touch with her brother. Attaching to her and her attaching to us. Learning each other as people. Dealing with her past trauma.
Honestly, I would do it again just to have her. She is amazing and I am proud of her. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. Also how I built my family.
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