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Is she being bullied physically? If so then I think an adult needs to step in and take control -- meetings with the parents, school, and who ever else. If she is being bullied with just words -- well I still think adults should step in. My daughter started Tae Kwon Do last September. I have noticed a huge change in her. She is happier, and more confident. Martial arts really emphasize that you do not use your skills aggressively. And you use just what you need to to protect yourself. The instructors at my daughter's Tae Kwon Do studio have high expectations for all the students. They really drill in self esteem, self confidence, and independence. This may help the child being bullied and lessen the chances of being the target of the bullies. But if a bully has chosen their target they may not let go so easily. The adults in the school need to know what is going on and try to put a stop to it. But martial arts may help the child feel more capable and confident in caring for themselves in those bully situations (even if it is just walking away). I think your sister and you can work together to make both things happen for your neice.

Samantha