[Barbara81906]

I completely understand what you are going through... but instead of it bing a family member it is a really good friend of mine... she is due sept 13th... she acts as though i'm doing her the favor even though my husband and i are so grateful to her for giving us this opportunity since we were ttc for 6 yrs with 2 mscgs also... I just realized i need to trust that my friend wouldn't try to hurt me... i do keep in the back of my mind that this is still her baby until everything is done with but i also tell myself wow inorder for someone that close to you to offer it they are usually certain at that point that this is what they want... (they had to decide this was best giving up their baby but still being able to see it and know how it is doing) I think that for these type of situations it is almost easier it's not like it's their first kid so they already know what to expect from having a baby and they will still be able to see it and they know that you and your husband will be wonderful parents... but definately make sure she gets counseling... my friend is in counceling for the adoption and for having gotten out of an abusive relationship...
Best of luck to you.... try to enjoy it... see if she'll let you go to an ultrasound appointment it will make it more real for you I know it did for me (i wasn't there at the first one cause it was an emergency visit she thought she was having a mscg but when everything turned out ok and she came home and handed me the ultrasound pic and said heres yours baby's first picture i just cried....