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This thread looks like it's been around for a while, but I thought I'd add my comment in case anyone else pulls it up.
I was the reluctant spouse at one point who was dead set against adoption. My wife and I were trying unsuccessfully to have a second child for over 4 years. She had approached me about adoption and I was skeptical because I didn't think I would feel the same way about an adopted child as our existing son.
After another failed infertility treatment, she decided to look online about adoption and found that an international adoption agency was doing a seminar the very next weekend in our home town (Denver). She asked if I would go and listen and I reluctantly agreed. The seminar was about 2 hours long and it completely transformed me to the point where we agreed that same day to do it and we sent in the preliminary application. What convinced me was not the agency or its representatives, but the five different families who took the time on their weekend to come in person (with their adopted kids) and give testimonials. I was overwhelmed by their stories and the reality of seeing real families with their kids. It was a life changing experience for me.
This all happened in April of 2003. On February 2004, we completed the adoption of 6 month old twins (boy/girl) from Russia. The first day I saw them it was as emotional for me as the day my eldest son was born. I love all three of my children equally and totally. My earlier stubborn attitude about adoption is a distant memory and I am eternally thankful that things turned out the way they did. I would not change a thing if I could.
The moral of my story is to expose the reluctant spouse to other adoptive families in person. I really hope that helps.
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