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Loved your story, Aspenhall!
My 2 cents.
I have an awesome social worker. After the adoption, she will graduate to the title of "aunt ...". I KNOW she has been open and honest with me.
One of my kids was in therapeutic care, and was headed for RT. He is extremely hyper, had some anger issues, and raged several times the first few months. He never injured my little boy, but I had to have line of site at all times. It wasn't easy. Now, less than a year later,he can still drive me nuts, but mostly with his hyperactivity. My much younger little boy? He absolutely LOVES his brother to pieces. He is also a sweet and loving and funny and smart child. To use words from Peter Pan, HE is my "happy thought". I KNOW where he was headed. At more than 15 previous foster homes, and with numerous lies from former foster homes who didn't like his hyperactivity or just didn't want the complete sibling set and had to come up with a way to separate them, the county was running out of options.
Also, in my state, there ARE foster children in mental hospitals for children JUST because there aren't enough homes. ESPECIALLY boys. I respect all the opinions on this thread, you guys have BTDT. And you've got blood, sweat, tears, and sometimes remorse and guilt to show for it. Maybe my kid defies the odds. All I know is, the rest of my family and I have been totally blessed by having him. Stand strong, Milehigh, for you are just as right as the other posters here. Thank God I did not have so much adamant advice against taking our kids!!! If I had read this thread prior to getting our kids, I probably would have been scared off, just like this family has now been. And I would have so blown it.
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