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Originally Posted by bumblebeeskies

I have to warn you that this is going to sound crazy lol

I have a neighbor who in her 40's, is rather irresponsible and her judgment seems "off". She is always late on her rent and gets into some really strange/dangerous situations. She recently found out she was pregnant. The dad is not in the picture and when caught, he will be going to jail for stealing from the company that he worked for. Anyhow, she realizes that she can't take care of a baby right now and was talking to my mom about just giving the baby to someone. Not like, "I'm making an adoption plan", but just giving it away. I talked to the neighbor the other day, and in good faith, w/ my experiences w/ being an adoptee, I could not recommend adoption. I know that adoption is different now, with open adoption and all, but from all I've read, I don't have much trust in the whole thing. I've read too many times, of first moms being promised things, and then due to whatever reason, the aparents didn't keep their word. So, I told her that I would take care of the baby until she could. It was the only other option I could think of. I'm not working right now, so I have the time. I don't have any other kids, so I don't have to worry about that. Financially, while I can't provide the baby with the best of the best, I can provide everything she would need.

Does this sound too complicated to work? Too dumb to even think about?

I'll just say it, this is dumb. You state that the woman is in her 40's, seems off and gets herself into strange/dangerous situations. She is not making an adoption plan, but will give the child to someone?? Mental illness or drug/alcohol use come to mind as possibilities. Help this woman by immediately pointing her to a professional who can give her the counseling she needs for herself and the child. The alarm bells are ringing. There is no room for a LOL comment in what you have framed to be a truly frightening situation for a child.