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I believe any woman thinking about an adoption plan or possibly parenting but doesn't think she can do it etc., really needs someone to help her see ALL available options to her and her child. Not just the one that sits right with you or anyone else.

If it's finances that are holding her back, then it seems to me there are a lot of other ways to help her. If she does not want to parent for other reasons, then she needs to decide if adoption is the right answer for her child.

Present her with unbiased options, because in the end, just because you personally do not trust adoption, doesn't mean it's the best or right decision for another. Certainly share your thoughts, but share all the other ones too. Every side of things should be discussed so she can make the best informed decision. Not only for herself, but for the baby.