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Old 03-13-2009, 05:25 AM
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Sdirector definitely gave good advice, but definitely start by checking the laws in your state. A google search should reveal them pretty easily.

Some states allow for the adoption you're looking for simply because it's so close in generations/family.

*Edited to remove agency/adoption service website. Please remember to pm this information*

Afterthought: whether you use a lawyer or not, definitely seek counseling, especially for the birthmom. Counseling for unsure birthmothers is usually free, at least that's what my experience was. Counseling will help birthmom make sure this is the right decision in her heart of hearts and prepare you both for what to expect...especially in the hospital when the child is born. By addressing concerns and possibilities ahead of time, you'll both be better prepared than "winging it." You wouldn't believe the emotions involved in this.

For me, I felt an overwhelming sense of guilt for my birthmom because of the pain/suffering she endured just to place her child with me. Like your birthmom, this is what she wanted to do/in family, but I was very surprised by my reaction. Thanks to excellent counseling (through the Women's Pregnancy Center), we were ready.
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met birthmom: 4/08

son born: 10/13/08

placed with us: 10/16/08

bio father's rights terminated: 12/3/08

birthmom moved away: 12/12/08

adoption FINALIZED!!! 3/11/09

Last edited by Nalansor : 03-13-2009 at 05:30 AM.
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