[Nalansor]

Along with what everyone else has said, let me offer you this advice as hard as it is: "Let Go and Let God."

I don't know your religious beliefs, but when I went through the same thing you did, the only way I found peace with the waiting and wondering was reminding myself that there is a Purpose, a Plan, and a Reason for everything. That I'm doing my part by knowing that everything happens for a Reason larger than me.

It's not easy, but that's what got me through 6 months of uncertainty...we adopted my husband's niece's child, and she moved in with us when she was 3 months pregnant. On her 6th month she moved into her own place, was well into counseling to ensure that whatever decision she made was her own, and we had become quite close. Like you, she felt like I was helping her because she just couldn't care for another child...but we were really there for each other.

I even remained the 4 days in the hospital with her. Talk about gut-wrenching! I prayed for peace and guidance.

She did follow through, and we recently finalized the adoption. I truly hope your birthmother goes through with the adoption for everyone's sake, especially yours.
You can get through this.