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As I type, my head knows the answer but my heart just won't listen...my husband and I inquired on a child's photolisting - Girl age 9. Her case worker accepted our home study and sent us preliminary report and is in process of sending us case file.

Prelim report says she does well in school, on target, normal eating/sleeping habits and does well with animals and pets. Healthy (with the exceptions below), great personality and enjoys typical 9 year old girl activities.

HOWEVER, here are where I see major red flags and would like feedback from parents who have received similar info, proceeded with adoption placement and lived to tell the tale:

Diagnosed with generic Disruptive Behavior (not specifically ODD or CD), ADHD and General Anxiety Disorder. Which the more I learn, all of these can go hand in hand. Medications: Adderall, Celexa, Risperdal - all low to normal dosages and correlate to aforementioned diagnoses.

She can go weeks, months, even a year without what sw calls an "anger outburst for extended period of time" (RAGE!). I am awaiting case file (and hopefully contact for previous/current caregivers) to define "extended". Are we talking an hour, a day or what? During one of these rages, she screams, curses but has been known to throw things, kick and hit if approached. Once it's over, it's over and she's back to normal.

I've read all the good books on adoption (tons!)...but reading and living this day to day is VERY different. We are very structured, she would be the only child at home, we have resources in place and insurance to cover them...we're by no means perfect, nor would we expect her to be and we've dealt with our fair share of anger, trauma and loss in our lives so I think we could help. We know it's work, but should we just run now?...thanks for your feedback.