[JeannineW]

Originally Posted by MamaAndDb

I naively believed that because we were open to siblings up to age 5 that we would be seeing possible matches all the time... nothing so far. now mind you we have been on the REady parent list for all of 2 weeks but still.... arent there all theese kids out there? And my SW was soooo busy all the time i figured she had lots of kids to match to us.

yes the big word is Wait. But atleast we are on the list to be considered so the wait is a purposeful one.

I felt the same way as you. Two years later, I forget we are still hoping to adopt sometimes.

We started in January 2007. The next class wasn't until April. Didn't get our finished homestudy until Oct. Got our foster care license after that. Now we have been "really" waiting for over a year.

It seems that the sib groups we are interested in - latino, 3 under 9, no major special needs - are actually in demand. Who knew? Most groups only stay on the photolisting for a few days to weeks.

I've made inquiries on 10 - 15 groups. Heard back on about 5. Most weren't something we could handle. One group I think we almost matched with. We were in the final selection. They chose no one! Having no family was better than us! I know that isn't exactly how it was but that was how it felt.

I sent in an inquiry last week. I wonder will they be the ones? My friend found out she was pregnant that day. She wanted to have babies together. Any chance I found my kids the same day. I want to agonize the details of adding THIS group to our familly but I've found it's not worth the energy.

I'm starting to think if we haven't brought kids home by summer. I will throw in the towel. That just seems like a crime since there are "so many kids out there that need homes."

Sorry for this depressing post. I guess I needed to vent. I think I'll go enjoy the nice weather with the kids I DO have.