[lucyjoy]

Its very hard to get a child admitted to the psych ward. The child has to be openly suicidal or homicidal to get admitted. Then, the child is returned to the home of foster home. Residential care is very hard to get a child placed in and requires serious criteria. Groups homes are easier to get a child into then residential care, but there child still has to meet the criteria. Hard to place teens are sometimes put into group homes if there are no foster homes for teens available but it's not common with younger children.

The children from group homes etc with serious issues are also the kids that I took in and parented. I also worked for 10 years with a parent support group for parents of children with attachment disorder and/or trauma issues. I've seen the LIES, I've seen the damage the lies do.

And yes, they are children and they do need families if they can handle having them. My 19 year old now healthy son will tell you that he liked the idea of a family but could not live within one.

Could this 9 year old be fine? Sure. But do I think a 6 year old should be risked to find out? NO.

I'm not sure where you got your group home/RTC information but just finding one with an open bed is quite a challenge.