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We brought our DD home from the hospital at 2 days and I felt the same way. It probably took until she was about 18 months for me to feel really attached.
She is now 22 months and although I love her with all my heart it is still hard for me to believe I am a parent. Some people say it is better to parent when you are older but for me I think I would have done better having children when I was younger and not so set in my ways (I'm 40 now). I am very independent and it is HARD to have to set what you want to do aside and give your full attention to your child.
Remember that it is ok to ask for help. I work full time (which is a wonderful break!) and DD is in daycare full time. Instead of feeling guilty we are not with her all day during the week, we routinely schedule a sitter for at least 5 hours every other weekend so we can just relax. We also do a few overnights a year.
It can be overwhelming so keep the lines of communication open-you are definitely not alone! You do not have to be perfect, you just have to be there. After I shared my feelings with some friends, they told me they felt this way with their bio children! Just take it day by day, it will get easier-going back to work should help-and before you know it you won't know how you could live without him.
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