[Prettyboicris]

Originally Posted by tentmaker1040

It's not that I don't want them to meet their biological parents, it's just having them move on with their lives like I don't exist any more. My own kids, if God forbid go through some crisis, they will come back to us because we are their parents. I just don't want it to turn in to "Well this was temporary but now we just need to move on with our real lives. Our real parents are great. You could win the lottery, be elected to office, or go down in plane, we'll just forget all the effort. Biological kids will always come back...no guarantee adoptee's will ever return.

And I refuse to apologize for being hesitant or asking questions or not understanding it all...that's the beauty of life, asking questions!

Honestly. Biological kids DO NOT always come back. I know people who have been at odds with their biological children and even when their child is down and out will refuse to go home. Like others have said the same way adoptive children can be hurtful and say nasty things is the same way biological kids can. Also the same way biological children can have a strong tie/ connection to you is the same way that an adoptive child can. Plus being an adoptive parent isnt about being appreciated by the child (though we hope they look back and appreciate what we do), what it is really about is helping a child in need and sharing the caring we have in our hearts and opening our homes