[RavenSong]

I'm a little confused here. You say this was an open adoption, and you wrote letters and called on the telephone through the years. Did you talk to your daughter on those phone calls, or was it only the adoptive mom you talked with? Have you ever visited with your daughter before now?

I'm surprised that your daughter's mom didn't tell you to call back at a certain time, or have your daughter return the phone call. Writing a letter is fine, but do you think she'll really get it?

It's so difficult to reunite with young adults, especially if they're still living at home. It's important to stay on good terms with her mom, IMHO. Be respectful, and treat her the way you want to be treated. If your daughter is still indeed dependent upon her parents, and it sounds like she is since she's still living at home, I think you need to continue communicating with her parents. It'll take a while before they see that you're not a threat. Oftentimes reunion can make aparents feel like their world is about to be rocked upside down. You can make it easier on them by including them in your reunion. Just my two cents...