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Welcome,
You are not alone, there are plenty of folks out there whom are struggling with parenting issues. If you and your wife have been with your son 24/7 for a straight month you are probably suffering from physical as well as emotional exhaustion. Just getting back to work will get a bit of your old life back. Remember that you and your wife must take care of yourselves as well as the baby. Get out and do something that is fun for you. If its too early to leave little one with another care taker, you and your wife might take turns giving each other a break.
I really just wanted you to know that your feelings are not abnormal. Many, many first time parents experience these same emotions. My husband for one had a great shock when he discovered he was no longer the center of my universe. I think that was the hardest part for him and still is to a degree.
As for bonding, my adopted daughter was 8 weeks old when placed in my arms and it wasn't until she was 14 months old that I had that Aha awaking of pure unabashed love for her. I remembe the moment it happened. I was just suddenly overcome with love and adoration for her. With my adopted son, the love and attachment just came slowly along. I never had that one moment the attachment just grew between us. I don't think he liked me much at first, but bonded with my husband right away. He was 13 months when he arrived home.
Hang in there Dad....you will get lots of support here and your SW will help you as well.
PS. Men who can honestly talk about their true feelings are a rare and wonderful breed.
Blessings to your family
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