[lucyjoy]

While I wouldn't expect his behaviors to be better in this amount of time, if your gut is telling you this is a bad match, maybe it is.

My advice is that if you can't live with him if the behaviors never change, don't adopt him(and I tell that to ALL new parents). There are no guarantees and stealing and lying are often long term behaviors.

I kept a child my gut told me was a bad match, mostly out of guilt. It was a bad choice.