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I don't think you'll have any problems finding adoptive parents even if you are 9 months along!
Think a lot about what you want from potential adoptive parents and what you want from the potential adoption.
You don't have to pick adoptive parents from whatever state you wind up in,but if you want to have an open adoption arrangement that includes visits, it would help!
I relinquished in 1985, it was a closed adoption (not my choice). I was told to 'forget about it' and 'get on with your life'. I did get on with my life of sorts, but never forgot. I fought with pretty bad depression for quite some years but I think it was more about relinquishing and not being able to talk about it then post partum depression.
PPD varies according to the mother, whether you relinquish or not. I think it's really good to get counseling before and after.
My personal experience, I never really regretted relinquishing my son, but, especially in the past two years that we've been reunited, I've had a lot of sadness around what I've missed with him. I'm also finally raising kids of my own, so I'm sure that has a bit to do with it.
I think it's also important to look into parenting as an option. You may come to the same conclusions that you aren't ready, but as adoption is a permanent solution to perhaps temporary circumstances it's worth exploring.
Good luck on your quest for answers. Ask a lot of questions! We'll try to support you the best we can.
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