[Dickons]

Adoptee here....

Originally Posted by tentmaker1040

I have no problem with an adopted child meeting their birth parents...I just don't want them to use the term "real parents".

Tent...you would be the parent and hopefully would teach your child to not do things that would hurt others...

Sure biological kids will say hurtful things, but they can never say, "we found parents that can do even better than you"..we'll be the only thing they know.

What about their friends parents who are way to cool...

It just seem like all you adoptive parents are doing yourself an injustice and even being somewhat false by suggesting you'll be 100% okay with a child just packing up and leaving you in the dust and telling you they've found someone they think they love more.

I doubt anyone would be okay with that...your friend may have experienced that but it may have happened regardless of the reason stated, i.e. adoption...there are always 3 sides to a story, 1st person's side, 2nd person's side and the 3rd side is usually the truth inbetween...

As an adoptive father that get left behind, just I just do a happy dance? Maybe celebrate? Buy a big cake? No, I am going to be angry and betrayed.

But who would you be angry with? You or your child? We all create our own destiny by our words and actions...if you believe something bad will happen you may unconsciously create the scenario for it to happen.

Please do not tar and feather all adoptees based on a one sided view.

Kind regards,
Dickons

Edited because I have yet to figure out how to do the quoting thing...