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Oh, and I also hate the term Real Parents. My kids were 3, 5, 10, and 12 when they came to us. Our older two used the term Real Mom when they came to us. I asked what *I* am then. They didn't know. I asked them if I made them feel any less my REAL child bc I didn't give birth to them. They said no. I asked them how I felt if I referred to my biosons as my REAL kids. They said they'd be hurt. I asked them how they thought I feel when they call her REAL. They said I probably feel hurt. I told them I do. On their own they stopped calling her Real Mom and started referring to her as their Biomom.
Communication with your kids is key whether they're bio or adopted.
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