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Originally Posted by tentmaker1040
I have no problem with an adopted child meeting their birth parents...I just don't want them to use the term "real parents".
Sure biological kids will say hurtful things, but they can never say, "we found parents that can do even better than you"..we'll be the only thing they know.
It just seem like all you adoptive parents are doing yourself an injustice and even being somewhat false by suggesting you'll be 100% okay with a child just packing up and leaving you in the dust and telling you they've found someone they think they love more.
As an adoptive father that get left behind, just I just do a happy dance? Maybe celebrate? Buy a big cake? No, I am going to be angry and betrayed.
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I would feel the same way if my kids left me and never looked back. The fact of the matter is, that's the risk in adoption.
There are TONS of risks we take in adoption. The child could have RAD, FAS, risk for mental health issues that weren't disclosed. The sw's lie about the situations in order to place kids.
There are also risks with having bio kids. They could inherit the worse of our genes. They could get mixed up with the wrong crowd and get into drugs, violence, gangs. They could drop out of school, get pregnant, and live with a dead-beat man who beats her.
There are just NO guarantees with becoming a parent. Our hearts WILL be broken by our kids! Our kids WILL make mistakes. WE WILL make mistakes. It's all an inevitable part of life.
Are the risks worth taking? That's the question you have to ask yourself!