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Hi,
You have not waited too long to make your decision, you still have plenty of time to decide if this is what you and your fiance really what to do. If you do want to go ahead with an adoption there are many options for you.
Adoption agency, adoption attorneys, churches etc.
They all can help with finding the right family for you and your daughter.
I didn't use an agency. I met our birthmother while I was shopping. If you know a family that you would like to see raise your daughter, then don't be shy about asking them if they are interest in adopting.
Open adoption is not legally binding, but if you have a good, open and honest relationship with the adoptive parents then you shouldn't have much to worry about. Our open adoption has worked out wonderfully for us. Our birthmother is part of our family and we have been truly blessed. We hang out together, go to Disney World together, go watch our son at Tae Kwon Do together. Our relationship is not just about exchanging pictures X amount of times per year. It's based on friendship, love, respect and our son. And because of our relationship, she has not had a difficult time with her decision to place our son (he is 8 years old now) with us. If you want, PM me and I will get in touch with our birthmother (she's a member here) and she can tell you more about our relationship and open adoption from her point of view (because I can go on and on) or I can tell you more about how we did it and how we came to the decisions that made it work for us.
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