I don't think any of the previous comments meant to upset you. They just really wanted to stress the impact adoption will have on you for the rest of your life.
They wanted to stress that you look into ALL your options, not just adoption at this point. I don't think that can be stressed enough.
I would go through an agency, BUT I would also get unbiased counseling. I would look in to open adoption AND look into all the option available if you decide to parent. Prepare yourself for BOTH life changing situations.
While looking into open adoption find out if your state offers legally binding contracts. You wouldn't want to expect pictures every 3 months only to be let down and the aparents decide not to send them.
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Will we have a hard time finding a family who is interested in adopting from us? We're both educated and come from strong families
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I don't think this should be a worry. There are tons of people out there that would love to have any child. I think you should be more concerned about what type of people you may want to raise your child. Start thinking, making a list of how you would like your child raised. Any religious preferences..would you like your child to be raised by artistic or sporty parents. Run through everything that is important to you and your fiance. When my son was at the paparents home I kept thinking about them feeding him meat. I'm vegetarian and for the first time I was unhappy that my beliefs were not going to be the way my son was raised. I was hit with many other feelings that I had never thought about prior to birth. (In the end I parented. I'm raising my son, he's two now and I can't believe what I almost did.)
I also don't think it can be stressed enough to make sure you say, "hello" to your baby before you say, "good-bye." Spend time with her/him before you sign on the line.
This IS the best spot to post your questions. These lady ARE here to help you. That's why they have all stressed the MAJOR impact this will have on your life. I think so many of them would not have choosen adoption...if only they had known what they know now. Please do come back here for support...you will find it!