[linda512]

Many Jewish people don't buy anything until after the baby is born. It is a superstition, but a strongly felt one. I, personally, would not give her anything until after the baby is born. It might really stress her out to get something before, especially after a long struggle with infertility.
As for what to get her, maybe a necklace with her birthstone and the baby's? Or some kind of necklace that relates to the baby- I have seen double hearts or a baby shoe, etc.