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It's not that I don't want them to meet their biological parents, it's just having them move on with their lives like I don't exist any more. My own kids, if God forbid go through some crisis, they will come back to us because we are their parents. I just don't want it to turn in to "Well this was temporary but now we just need to move on with our real lives. Our real parents are great. You could win the lottery, be elected to office, or go down in plane, we'll just forget all the effort. Biological kids will always come back...no guarantee adoptee's will ever return.
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I understand where you are coming from and I know that many adoptive parents have had the thought that our kids will grow up and not want us or need us anymore but now that I am a parent I have NO fears about that whatsoever.
I disagree that biological kids will always come back. I know quite a few people who do not speak to their biological parents. There are people out there who do not speak to bio siblings or uncles or aunts. Relationships become strained and people distance themselves.
If you are a good parent to your child, and you love them and cherish them, why would they never come back to you? You can't live your life in fear of that.
If you adopt a child and avoid talking about his or her adoption or become upset when your child tells you he or she wants to make contact with their bio family, THAT will bad feelings. Just be supportive, love your child and your child will not just walk away and forget about you.