Wait
I urge you and your fiance' to please wait until you have that baby in your arms before you decide to give her up.
I gave my first born up when I was 21. I didn't have a fiance' or anyone who was willing to help me. I could have gone to my mom's but she was not living the kind of life that would have encouraged a baby. I wished I had someone to talk to who would have encouraged me to keep my baby. But no one did.
My bdaughter is now 20 and will be 21 in June. I called her parents a couple of years ago but we did not have a good conversation. I called them yesterday and I had a good long discussion w/the Mom. My bdaughter hasn't called me or written because she is not ready to let me into her life just yet. You see, there is no promise that
this child will ever come into your life again. Are you ready to live w/that?
Myself, I've written my bdaughter a letter. I first asked her mom if it was o.k. She said it was.
I had an open adoption with my aparents. I didn't get many pictures over the years. I would get a letter if I wrote one, but when she was about 16 they stopped writing me back. I was scared to call but I did when she
was 18. I was worried about her. Finally, they agreed to let me write her at age 20.
BMTEXAS,
birthmother to one,
mother to five
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