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It's not too late for anything.
I would encourage you to look at all options.
Please remember that adoption is a permanent solution to temporary circumstances.
If it is at all possible to parent, and if you have any desire to do so, please explore that option.
Otherwise, I don't think you'd have ANY problems finding someone to adopt your child. There are agencies, and there are private adoption options. Remember that open adoptions aren't legally enforcable in most states, although personally, I wish I'd had that option!
I strongly encourage counseling. NOT from an agency. Just so that you can get some idea of how relinquishing your child can affect you.
I relinquished in 1985, I was told it was best for everyone, I was told to move on, forget about it, go on with life. I didn't of course. I reunited with my son 2 years ago. Even though he's had a good life, even though it probably was the right thing for me, I regret the years I didn't have with him and I regret the fact that I will never have the sort of relationship with him that I have with my other kids.
I encourage you to really look at your reasons for relinquishing. If it's financial, how dire is your situation? Is family willing to help out until you guys get on your feet? Breastfeeding is a free way to feed a child in the beginning, a baby doesn't care if they are wearing hand-me downs or second hand clothing. Just things to think about.
How would you and your fiancé feel down the road when you have more children, knowing that their older sibling is living with a different family?
I'm not saying that adoption is NOT the right choice for YOU. It might very well be!
Please continue to post! Ask loads of questions! The younger ladies here have a lot more information on open adoptions and options for that.
Good luck in your decision!
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