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I don't think Paige meant that adoption tax credit is really a charity anymore than firstmom expenses are a charity. I think it's just being used as a point to say that in an industry so wealthy and yet the two parties directly and most personally involved having to shoulder so much (the aparent & firstparent), it's ridiculous to have certain things.

Like...if adoptions did NOT cost the 30k that they do, to pay the "professional" fees then the adoption tax credit "charity" would not be necessary. It would be affordable to adopt, firstmoms would not have to shoulder expenses they are not responsible for (sorry, but the birth of the baby *should* be the aparents responsibility to pay for if that child is placed with them, imo) and this would not be an industry fueled by greed and unthical practices by "professionals".

I think that's the bottom line here anyway...that we are all jumping through hoops set by the adoption professionals and somewhere in here we have ways of standing up and saying "you know what...this is not okay with me and here's the choices I'm going to make."