[Amaurosis]

Personally, I think that paying "expenses" beyond medical bills is unethical. There is enough coercion inherent in the system without adding in the financial obligation component. I definitely think it is wrong to pay to compensate for the "blessing" or "gift" that the emom is considering, or as some kind of reward for not aborting(!).

That said, we did help our son's bmom out with a few things after TPR -- we bought a car seat for here parented daughter, because I couldn't stand to see her 2-year-old crammed into an infant seat. I also bought a few groceries.

I think the bottom line is that you have to decide what you are comfortable with from an ethical and financial perspective, and go from there.