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Well Wizard, being equally blunt I say the following with all due respect:
If you don’t want to pay charity to an expectant mother, then don’t. Paying it to “get a baby” is immoral, IMO. Frankly I don’t like the idea of adoptive parents paying directly to expectant mothers either. I believe some support for those that need it should be built into the base fee and the agency should make a fair assessment of those that need it. I didn’t ask for nor did I accept a single penny. However, I was pretty ticked off when going through my dad’s papers after he died, I found copies of the payments made to the hospital to pay the portion of my and the babies hospital stay that insurance didn’t cover. My father was unemployed at the time I relinquished my son. The burden of the hospital charges should not have been left to those of us who went home with empty arms. After all, had the adoptive parents given birth they would have experienced co-pays and other medical expenses, but I guess in my case they got a free ride.
I venture to guess that the bulk of adoption costs don’t go to birthmother charity. Adoption facilitators, attorneys and others have to be making huge profits and in my opinion many are acting as the middle man in a baby sell. That a domestic, infant adoption can cost over 30k just makes me angry. It’s unreasonable and plays on the needs of people trying to make a family through adoption. I think the entire industry needs an overhaul and needs to be better regulated.
As for the idea of charity…I don’t like forced charity either. I don’t like giving charity to adoptive parents with my tax dollars in the form of the adoption tax credit. So, I guess in adoption there are costs we all shoulder that we don’t like.
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Paige
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