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I think my dd is the same way curious-wise, and I always respond with...
If I told you, it would only confuse you more and cause more questions. I promise to tell you every single thing all about it, when it won't cause more questions than it answers.
As long as I promise to tell her the whole entire complete truth later, she leaves it alone.
I would also tell her that the kids on the bus have got it wrong, and it's nothing like that....And your answers won't make very much sense right now.
But at age 11 I think they need to hear it....pretty much all of it.
Because at age 12 it all starts happening.
Praise her for coming to you and let her know you're the best source for these answers. You're the expert....
It's not really that scary of a talk if you take a scientific approach to it, and explain body purposes and functions first.
I would also include the fact that S.R. are a serious tool to bring people closer together and build strong emotions. I would tell her that until the relationship is serious as marraige, then the tool can damage and destroy the relationship (my opinion, no flaming). It's like using a pressure washer to water flowers....yes it sprays water, and yes flowers need water, but it's the wrong tool for the job, because of how powerful it is. And SR are just as powerful on delicate young relationships with uncertain futures.
I think too many times the medical complications are what's focused on...and not the emotional complications that can happen. It isn't just a clinical act and that needs to be addressed.
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